On EscortsOn.Net Escort’s security is our priority. Now we’d like to provide some helpful tips for those how work in this business.

Escort workers frequently visit unfamiliar places to service clients who are unknown to them, therefore, escort work can be risky. It is essential that all escort workers are aware of potential “on the job” dangers and how best to avoid and handle them. This information sheet has been produced to inform escort workers about the dangers they may encounter on the job, and to suggest some strategies for dealing with difficult situations.

• PERSONAL SAFETY TIPS
• PROVIDING THE SERVICE
• FOR ESCORT AGENCY WORKERS
• USING DRIVERS
• FOR DRIVERS
• MEETING AN ESCORT

PERSONAL SAFETY TIPS FOR ALL ESCORT WORKERS

• Don’t visit clients who do not have a telephone connected or who use a mobile phone to book the service.
• Carry a mobile phone with you to the job. At the start of the booking call someone - a friend or a relative. This will let the client know that someone else knows where you are and that your whereabouts can be traced.
• If you are providing a service to a client at a private home, drive by the house first to check for signs that might suggest “all is not right”. For example, if there are several cars in the drive, or you hear loud music coming from the house, or you see more than one person in or around the house. If you feel something is wrong ring the client on your mobile to discuss your concerns or to cancel the booking.
• Don’t take cash or ID with you to the job.
• Assert yourself in the first 10 minutes of meeting the client. From the moment you are alone with the client it’s important to take control and stay in control of the situation. Be polite and friendly – it’s often the best way to gain control – even when the client is behaving like a jerk.
• Clearly explain the service to the client; what it will involve, how long it will last and how much it will cost.
• Explain to the client that you always use condoms for oral, vaginal and anal sex, and when using sex toys.
• Ask for payment BEFORE you provide the service.
• When the client pays, give the money to your driver or put it in a safe place. For example, in an inner zipped pocket or some other safe place away from wandering hands. Be aware of where your money is at all times.
• Let the client know that there is someone waiting outside for you, even if you are not using a driver.
• At the end of the job, count your cash and credit slips to make sure they are all there. Do not count your cash and credit slips in front of the client. It is best not to accept cheques from clients as it is very easy to pass or be fooled by a bad or bogus cheque and as a result you may not be paid.
• Look through the whole house to check for other people, signs of danger and exits. You could say, “this is a lovely house, would you mind giving me a tour?” Or you could ask to go to the toilet and then have a quick look around. Be alert at all times.
• Don’t accept a drink that has already been opened or that you have not seen being made. It’s not difficult for an “Ugly Mug” to slip a drug (like rhohypnol) into the drink he’s fixed for you.
• Never be afraid to say NO if necessary. Remember that if you find a particular client distasteful, abusive or disrespectful, no amount of money is worth having to service them. Warn that you will leave if the client gets too rough.
• Be tactful – especially if the situation is becoming nasty. Keep your cool and be honest – don’t buy into the client’s bullshit – this should help to diffuse the situation.
• If you drive yourself, park your car so only the back can be seen from the house (for example behind a tree or some bushes) and leave the car radio on if possible (this will suggest to the client that someone is waiting for you).
• Pens, screech whistles and breath sprays can make good weapons, and may allow you the opportunity to get away.
• Don’t carry knives or guns with you. These can be used against you!
• Have your belongings near the door in a pile so you can grab them if you need to get away quickly.
• Make sure you are not under the influence of alcohol of drugs when visiting clients. They can affect your judgment and ability to defend yourself.

WHILE YOU ARE PROVIDING THE SERVICE

• When it comes to being in danger or even detecting an STD, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!!
• If you sense something’s wrong, get out! Say something like, “I’ve forgotten my worker’s bag and have to get it from the car. Or “I have to let my driver know you’re home and everything is OK”, and then leave.
• If you have to defend yourself, do it with the intention of hurting. It is a good idea to do a self-defence course. If a client becomes aggressive or violent let him know you can trace him through his credit card, address, car registration number, etc. Explain to the client that it is not illegal to do sex work in Victoria, and that you will not hesitate to report him to the police.
• If in danger, don’t hesitate to smash one of the client’s windows or his stereo with a lamp, ashtray, or anything heavy. This will startle (perhaps even scare the client) and it will let your driver know you are in danger and require help.
• If you are doing a fantasy service, before you start make sure that you know what you are in for and that the client knows condoms will be used.
• Check your client for STDs, especially for crabs, sores, herpes blisters and warts. Condoms do not protect you 100% against these.
• Do not use massage oils as lube. They break down the condom rubber. Use water-based lube such as wet stuff or KY jelly and wipe off any massage oil before you put the condom on.
• Use your own condoms, not your client’s.
• Be aware that Nonoxynol 9 condoms cause medical problems for some workers (Nonoxynol 9 can remove nail polish so it is best not to use it on regular basis).
• Putting on a condom with your mouth is useful if the client does not want to use them – this can eroticise condoms.
• If you use xylocaine, be aware of the risks. It is not advisable to use xylocaine for penetrative sex. Due to the numbing effect, you are less likely to feel any injury or become aware that a condom has broken. Xylocaine can numb the client’s penis, and make it difficult for him to cum.
• If the client does not take no for an answer about using condoms, suggest another activity such as Spanish sex (between the breasts) or hand relief with lube.
• If the client refuses to use condoms, leave!
• You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.
• If you are feeling stressed, your work will suffer. Take some time off to relax.
• If you have a bad experience with a client, visit or phone RhED to make an “Ugly Mug” report. Filing one of these reports will let other workers know about the client.

EXTRA TIPS FOR ESCORT AGENCY WORKERS

• Let your agency know what service you will or won’t Perform.
• Find out how your agency operates with bounced cheques and credit card fraud.
• Always ring the agency when you leave or extend a booking. You should have a code between yourself and the receptionist to use if you are in trouble.

TIPS WHEN USING DRIVERS

• If you are going to service a client, consider employing a driver. Drivers can be very useful in helping you out of difficult situations. They can be used for safety, convenience, and travelling long distances between towns.
• Ask the driver to accompany you to the client’s door. This is a good way to get the client to pay up front. You can then give your money to the driver for safekeeping.
• If your booking is in a hotel or motel let the driver know the room number where the service will be taking place.
• Make sure your driver waits while you are providing the service.
• Use a driver that you know and trust.
• Arrange for the driver to knock on the client’s door at the end of the booking.

TIPS FOR DRIVERS

• You are being paid by the escort to do a good job. This means you are there for security as well as transport.
• Do not leave after you have dropped the worker at the job. Wait until the worker has finished providing the service.
• Be prepared to assist the worker if he or she needs you.
• Do not hassle the worker or expect a free service from him or her.
• Respect the worker and follow his or her wishes on the job.
• Know the time when the job is to finish. If the worker doesn’t come out by the agreed time, you should go and see if everything is all right.
• Leave the steering wheel lock off, in case you need to make a quick get away.
• You may need to defend yourself and or the worker against a violent client (a steering wheel lock can be a good weapon).
• Have a code between yourself and the worker to signal if he or she is in trouble. For example, movement of the bedroom curtains.

ADVICE ON MEETING AN ESCORT

• When you first email an escort, be friendly and courteous and suggest a specific time and date when you would like to meet. Give her your telephone number and tell her when would be a good time to call you and whether she can leave a message if you don’t answer. Expect her to email you back at that same address, or specify a different one. Don’t tell her all about what you’d like to do with her, as there’ll be time for that later. Being concise and practical shows you’re serious and many escorts won’t reply to emails that are obscene or vague.
• Don’t withhold your number when you call an escort. Most escort girls don’t take calls from withheld numbers. The majority of independent escorts will only call or text you by arrangement. So if the escort is unable to take your call, leave a message saying when would be a good time to call you back (or simply saying ‘Please don’t call back - I’ll call you again at 7pm’).
• If you’re looking for something in particular, let the escort know. She'll need an idea of how long you plan to spend with her and you might also want to give a little background. If you’re looking for a regular arrangement with an escort, or if you’re planning an international trip and are looking for a travel companion, or if you’re just visiting her area for a few nights on a business trip, she’d like to know. The more you can tell her, the better, as this means she will schedule sufficient time for you and make sure she’s appropriately dressed when you meet.
• Your escort will probably ask on the phone if you have any ‘special requests’. That means things like lingerie (stockings and suspenders are amongst the English Courtesan’s most frequent requests), overall dress (especially if it’s a special occasion), and your intimate preferences (this is your chance to tell her what you like and ask for special equipment such as bondage gear or fantasy outfits – most girls don’t carry a ball gag or ball gown in their handbag!).
• Try to give your escort reasonable notice. Most independent escorts require a minimum 24 hours and those who have a ‘day job’ will often require a week or even two. Even if you’re seeing an agency escort, you should try to call 2-3 hours in advance or more if it’s a Friday night. If there’s considerable travel involved for the escort, especially if it’s international travel, early booking is recommended.
• If an independent escort asks to verify your identity, you shouldn’t see that as a threat. Escorting is a risky business so your escort needs to look after herself. Most independent girls will ask you for a real name and some will ask you for a landline number and/or place of work. Some escorts check the hotel booking if you’re meeting at a hotel. Many will ask for photo ID when they meet you as well.
• If an escort asks for a deposit, as many independent escorts do, make sure you transfer this in a timely manner. If you leave it too late, most escort girls will simply refuse to meet you. It should always arrive in her bank account at least 24 hours before you meet but if international or long-distance travel is required, the escort will probably refuse to arrange travel until she has your deposit.
• If an escort girl asks you to meet her in the hotel car park, there’s a good reason for this. A lot of escorts call you when they’ve parked and ask you to come out and find them in the car park. By the time you walk past the front desk of the hotel together, you’ll be chatting away like old friends, and it means the escort is less likely to be challenged at reception. It also means you don’t have to do introductions under the beady eye of a waiter in the hotel bar.
• Personal hygiene is of the utmost importance to any escort. Escorts are always freshly showered and she expects her clients to be just the same. One thing that boys seem to overlook is the state of their genitalia. If you’ve been to the bathroom, please wash it. Otherwise the escort you see will put you straight in the shower, losing you ‘quality time’, and she may well refuse to see you again.
• Always offer an escort a drink when she arrives. It breaks the ice and shows her that you regard her as a fellow human being. It also takes into account the fact that she may well have travelled for several hours to get to you. To fail to offer her a glass of water or cup of tea or coffee is thoughtless and rude. You wouldn’t do that to a guest or business associate, so please don’t do it to an escort.
• Hand the fee to your escort at the start of the meeting. It’s one less thing for you both to remember and it reassures her. Some escorts prefer the cash to be handed over in an envelope, others don’t mind. If you want to tip based on how your escort performs, you can do this discreetly at the end by popping something into her handbag or pressing it into her hand. Pay in twenty pound notes, or tens if you prefer, but never in fifties. A lot of places won’t accept fifty pound notes so they’re difficult for a girl to use and some escorts won’t take them for this reason.
• Tipping an escort is not obligatory but is always appreciated. Some people tip 5%, some tip 10%, others tip 15% and some don’t tip at all. Tipping is unlikely to make a difference to the service you receive, but it’s a gesture of appreciation.
• If you’re married, tell the escort, or at least don’t try to conceal it. It won’t affect the ‘full girlfriend experience’ and they won’t be shocked. Being honest with your escort may also help them protect you – see The Wife’s Tale as a cautionary note! Most of escort’s clients are married and these days they always has a ready answer to the ‘how did you and my husband meet?’ question. If you’re a first-timer, tell the escort that too. Most escorts will welcome a first-timer with open arms and take extra care with you, so don’t be embarrassed.
• Tell the escort a little about yourself. She won’t ask you personal questions as most escorts try not to but she’d no doubt like to hear about your interests, work, family and anything else you feel comfortable sharing with her. She’ll probably tell you a certain amount about herself and a little reciprocity is nice. If you’re overly guarded it makes conversation practically impossible. Telling an escort that you go to an unspecified gym every Tuesday or that you’ve just got back from a holiday in the south of France is unlikely to be a security risk.
• Do not vigorously finger your escort! Many men like fingering and some assume that that must mean escorts do too. A little gentle fingering is usually acceptable and sometimes even enjoyable. However the truth of the matter is that the vast majority of escort girls don’t like fingering unless you are very, very gentle and take their cues.
• Don’t ask an escort if she’ll have dinner with you afterwards unless you’re willing to pay.
• Try not to make promises. If you’re prone to saying things like ‘Shall we meet in Mauritius next time?’ or even ‘See you Tuesday’, remember you’re setting an expectation. Escorts don’t expect you to say anything like this unless you’re serious. So by all means say something nice, like that you’ve enjoyed yourself if you have, but beware of making promises in those heady post-coital moments.
• Be confident and try to relax. Most independent escorts have a choice about who they do and don’t see and some ‘filter out’ as many as 50% of enquiries. So if an independent escort agrees to see you, that means she already likes something about you, so you’re entitled to have confidence in your charms.
• Don’t worry if you forget most of the things on this list. This is an idealised guide to being the English Courtesan’s Cupcake, but if you just remember the 3 Cs of courtesy, cleanliness and cash, then you can’t go far wrong. Most of the English Courtesan’s clients forget to do at least one of the things on this list each time she sees them but she rarely even notices. Even if she does, she invariably forgives them their transgressions, just as they forgive hers.
• Remember you’re meant to be having fun! You’re paying for a service from your escort so you have the right to expect it to be an enjoyable experience. If your chosen escort has any sense, she’ll be grateful for your business and she’ll endeavour to make the experience both memorable and relaxed for you. The nicest thing a client has ever said to an escort is ‘When I’m with you, all the things I’m worrying about just fade away’. That’s how it should be.